Here's what the Bible has to say:


Love is always patient and kind; 

It is never jealous; 

Love is never boastful or conceited; 

It is never rude or selfish; 

It does not take offense, 

And is not resentful. 

Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins - 

But delights in the truth; 

It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. 

This is God's definition of love - found in The New Testament.

[I Corinthians Ch 13] 

This is the definition of what love really is ...... 

So how does your idea of what love is, match up to this? 

Love is not sex .. love is not just a 'feeling' .. [although feelings play a big part] .. love isn't what you say .. it's what you do .. how you treat other people .. even if they're mistreating you.

Many people would be more honest saying " I lust you" to their partner of the moment ...... The world is full of totally wrong assumptions about love.....  The lyrics of various songs tell you 'Love Hurts' .. 'Love will break your heart' .. 'Love is a flame that burns you' etc. ... but that's just not true. When people are experiencing negative emotions,  pain and distress within a relationship, then these things actually refer to the results of various kinds of lust and not love. The problem arises when one or other persons in a relationship put their needs first.

So often, what we do is based on emotions and feelings that are the result of our separation from the love of God ....  Our need for gratification.

No, it's not 'love' ....  but our fallen human nature that brings pain when we bow to our  selfishness, and our self centered egos.

Look again at the bible's definition of love at the top of the page.

Love is what you do without thought for yourself .. God is love.

Jesus said ' Greater love has no man than this .. that he lay down his life for his friends' ..... (exactly what He did).

Love is all about 'giving' .. putting the other person first .. subjecting our desire for self gratification, and turning it into a force that meets the needs of others. 

The Bible tells us that no matter what we may accomplish .. if we do not do it in love it is utterly worthless.  [1 Corinthians Ch. 13].

The word 'Charity' actually means LOVE.

'Love will find a way .. indifference

 will find an excuse'

Nigel Partis